Remember before you had kids, how you had dreams and aspirations? Your life was your own and you slept when you wanted and had things like quiet time.
Maybe you had goals for yourself to reach by the time you were 30 or maybe you don’t like to set goals. But you’ve always had that lingering “that would be fun” thing in the back of your mind. Maybe it was writing a book, taking an art class or even starting your own business.
But as Motherhood enveloped your life, you started focusing more and more on your husband and your kids and your home. You tucked those dreams back down, telling them they could come out again when you have time.
When you don’t have a crying baby on your hip or the toddler is old enough to know not to cut up the t-shirt he’s currently wearing. Then you can focus on your dreams and do the things you love.
The Balancing Act
You probably read blog posts all the time telling you about the importance of self-care and you probably nod to everything but then don’t actually put that into practice.
The thing is, taking care of ourselves and following our dreams feels incredible selfish. And it is a little bit. Motherhood is about dying to ourselves. But sometimes those dreams are there for a reason. Most often, those dreams are a hidden gift that God gave us, to help reach people.
There’s a balance that has to be found with these things. Sometimes the season requires us to focus our entire energy on our families and sometimes He calls us to bring that dream to fruition.
I’ve always wanted to write a book, from the time I was a little girl. I thought it would just be the coolest thing ever. And I’ve always tucked that dream back down, telling it that later would be better.
I just need to find a job after college. I just need to get the wedding over with. I just need to get through this horrible pregnancy. I just need to find us a house. I just need to figure out how to survive with two kids.
In my mind, writing a book would come when all my kids were school age or older. Maybe when I was done having babies, whenever that will be.
But this year, thought wouldn’t leave me alone. I kept thinking about it and no matter how hard I tried to push it back down it wouldn’t stay. God kept nudging me, telling me that it was time.
Things kept falling into place. I would find time to write or a podcast would give me exactly the information I would need.
So I did it. I wrote a book. I didn’t write it because I wanted to be famous or because I wanted to make a lot of money. I wrote it because it’s something that I’ve always wanted to do and because it was a topic that could help a lot of moms in my situation.
Dreams Come in Seasons
Sometimes the season you’re in requires you to tuck those dreams back down and just focus on the present. But sometimes, we need to push away the fear and the excuses to actually follow them. Even if we’re only taking baby steps towards that dream.
Those dreams that we’ve had forever are God’s little gifts to us. He puts those there because eventually He’ll work through them and touch people in ways we never could on our own.
If right now isn’t the time to pursue that dream of yours, God will bring it around in due time. He didn’t put that desire there for nothing.
But if He’s calling you to stretch outside your comfort zone to chase the dream He planted, then try taking a baby step. Reach out and test the waters. Maybe there are great things ahead for you, dear Momma. You’ll never know until you try.
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